Why hire a doula?

 I had never even heard of the term "doula" when I first got pregnant in 2016. Why bother spending thousands of pounds on antenatal and birth support when you can get it for free from a midwife for free on the NHS? How wrong I was. 


There was no continuity of care during my pregnancy; I saw a different midwife at each antenatal appointment, all with different approaches and even conflicting advice. At my 40 week appointment, I was reduced to tears by the midwife who scolded me for accepting the offer of induction at my previous appointment when I explained that I actually had no intention of being induced. "Why are you wasting our time telling us one thing, and meaning another?", she tutted. I wanted to clarify that I had felt pressured into accepting one because I was worn down. Worn down by having to repeat myself at every appointment - no, I did not want an induction. Yes, I did know the risks of not having one. I couldn't justify myself, however because the tears started flowing and I was unable to get my words out. 

With a doula supporting me, I would have felt empowered to advocate for myself. I would have had the knowledge and strength to ask the right questions. I would have developed the self-belief that my body knew how to birth. I wish I had hired a doula! 

So what does a doula do, exactly?

Doulas provide continuous, non-clinical support to birthing people and their families. This support spans the emotional, informational, and practical aspects of labour and delivery. A doula is there to ensure that the women or birthing person’s needs are met, their voice is heard, and their choices are respected. The primary functions of a doula include:

  1. Emotional Support: Doulas offer unwavering reassurance, helping to ease anxiety and build confidence in the birthing process. They are there to listen, validate, and support the emotional journey of labour.

  2. Practical Support: Doulas assist with physical comfort measures such as breathing techniques, positioning, massage, and movement. This hands-on support can reduce pain perception and help labour progress more smoothly.

  3. Informational Support: During pregnancy and labour, doulas provide unbiased, evidence-based information about the birthing process, interventions, and options available. They help birthing people understand the choices they have, empowering them to make informed decisions.

  4. Advocacy: Doulas advocate for the birthing person’s wishes, ensuring that their preferences are respected by the medical team. They encourage open communication between the birthing person and healthcare providers, which fosters a collaborative, respectful atmosphere in the birthing room.



Birth is an intense, transformative journey. In a system that can sometimes prioritise medical protocols over individual preferences, a doula provides the consistency and compassion that many birthing people crave. Whether you’re planning a natural birth, an epidural, or a Caesarean, a doula’s presence can help ensure that your experience is as empowering, respectful, and fulfilling as possible.

Think of it as an investment in one of the most important days of your life! We probably all accept that spending a small fortune on our wedding/civil partnership is worth it, so why do we not afford the same value to birth and parenthood? 

Hiring a doula may set you back on average £2000, but to put it into perspective,
1) a daily coffee out - £3.50 (x roughly 300 days a year = £300 approx)
2) monthly Netflix/Prime/Now TV etc subscription - £7-15 (x 12 = £84-180)
3) weekly takeaway for 2 - £25 (x roughly 40 weeks a year = £1000
4) monthly night/meal out for 2 - £50-100! (x12 = £600-1200)

And not to mention all the unnecessary baby gadgets that consumers are being encouraged to purchase! So it is really all about looking at the bigger picture. A positive birth will have a long lasting impact on the physical and mental health of not only you, but also your partner and your unborn baby! 

Want to know more?
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Visit my website: www.fearlessbirthdoula.co.uk 


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